Abusive relationships don’t just happen to adults. Young
people can experience abusive behaviour from their boyfriend or
girlfriend, in mixed sex or same sex relationships.
Abusive behaviour can be:
* violent (hitting, kicking, slapping)
* emotional (humiliating you or putting you down)
* sexual (forcing you to do sexual acts you don’t want to do)
Abusive relationships can start with verbal or emotional abuse
and could happen to anyone. It can often escalate into physical
abuse, by which time your self-esteem is likely to be damaged.
Some warning signs of potential violence and abusive behaviour
* extreme jealousy
* angry when you want to spend time with your friends
* isolating you from friends and family
* trying to control your life – how you dress, who you hang out
with and what you say
* humiliating you or putting you down
* threatening to harm you or to harm themselves if you leave
* demanding to know where you are all the time
* monitoring your calls and emails, threatening you if you don’t
* excessive drinking of alcohol or drug use
* explosive anger
* using force during an argument
* blaming others for his / her problems or feelings
* being verbally abusive
* threatening behaviour towards others
* pressuring you to send them sexual texts or images of
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Resources and Useful Websites:
Broken Rainbow provides support for
lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people experiencing
domestic abuse. It also runs a helpline for anyone
experiencing homophobic, transphobic or abuse within a same sex
relationship. Please call 0800 999 5428
Brook works to enable young people
to enjoy their sexuality without harm, by providing free and
confidential sexual health services for young people under the age
The Hideout is
aimed at young people up to to age of 21. You can find information
on relationship abuse and advice on how to get help.
Rape Crisis offers a range
of services for women and girls who may have been raped or who have
experienced another form of sexual violence. Please click on the
link for more information, advice or to find your nearest Rape
Crisis Centre. Alternatively, to contact the National Sexual
Violence Helpline, please call 0808 802 9999
Respect phoneline: For
any young person who recognises that they are abusive within
their relationship, help and support can be found on the website,
or by calling 0808 802 4040
Thinkuknow offers advice to
young people on sex, relationships and the internet. It also
provides up-to-date information to help young people develop the
skills they need to make sure they stay safe and are happy in the
decisions they are making.
ChildLine is the free, 24-hour helpline for children and young
people in the UK.
Children and young people can call our helpline on 0800 1111
about any problem, at any time - day or night.
You can contact ChildLine about anything - no problem is too big
or too small. If you are feeling scared or out of control or just
want to talk to someone you can contact ChildLine.
Advice for parents, professionals and young
people on the signs of sexual exploitation and how to keep
Barnardo’s has published the set of advice
leaflets, available to download for parents, professionals and
young people across the UK.
Sexual exploitation affects thousands of
children and young people every year. We can all play an important
role in reducing that number, helping to cut children free from
The NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to
Children) is the UK's leading charity specialising in child
protection and the prevention of cruelty to children.
Thinkuknow.co.uk is a website designed to raise awareness of the
dangers of the Internet. Website is http://www.thinkuknow.co.uk/
Action for Children supports and speaks out for the most
vulnerable children and young people in the UK including. We offer
help and support for disabled children, young people, children in
care and family support.
The Childhood Bereavement Network is a national,
multi-professional federation of organisations and individuals
working with bereaved children and young people. We believe that
all children have the right to information, guidance and support to
enable them to manage the impact of death on their lives.
The National Youth Advocacy Service (NYAS) is a UK charity
providing children's rights and socio-legal services. They offer
information, advice, advocacy and legal representation to children
and young people up to the age of 25, through a network of
advocates throughout England and Wales.